The Single Twenty Something’s Holiday Survival Guide

holiday survival guide

Alternatively titled, what to do when the umpteenth relative asks you why you’re single

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Welcome to the second post in Dateless December, my series on being single. This week I’m here with a holiday survival guide for singles. I make a lot of jokes in this one (or attempt to at least) but I actually LOVE the holidays. Seriously, I own three separate Christmas sweaters, two of which feature jolly pugs, and a hat with pugs that says bah humpug. But, I digress. Hopefully, my humour comes across and if not, my apologies. Also, if you’re a family member reading this, obviously none of this refers to you 😉

Dear Twenty Somethings,

The holidays are such a joyous time. Outside looks like a winter wonderland of white snow, unidentifiable gray slush, and blustering winds that threaten to knock you down. The streets are filled with people taken with the wonderful holiday spirit. Malls are bursting at the seam with miserable shoppers who look like they’d rather be anywhere else but love stopping in the middle of the mall to take a smiling selfie.

Holidays are a time to listen to cheery songs about red-nosed reindeer or a creepy man trying to convince an unwilling woman to stay with him for a romantic evening despite her protest and concern that he put something in her drink.

Most importantly, the holidays are time to celebrate with your loved ones. Holiday parties and get-togethers are sweet occasions where you can find yourself fielding questions about why you’re single or suggestions to help you “find your true love.” Or pretending to be interested in hearing about how your third cousin (twice removed) has finally found love while Aunt Sally pats your arm reassuringly. Nothing says happy holidays like an interrogation fit for a CIA movie or a film on the Spanish Inquisition.

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The Truth about Letting Go

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Alternatively titled, the first step in accepting being forever alone is letting go

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In case you weren’t aware, I’m not great at dating. I’m great at relationships (in my humble opinion) but getting into those relationships is not my forte. Most of the time, I’m fine with used to being single, although admittingly I still sometimes wish I wasn’t. However, there’s something about the holidays that makes being single hard. It could be not having a boyfriend to buy presents to or take to holiday parties. Probably, it has more to do with having to handle questions about why I’m still single (#foreveralone).

This year I wanted to ignore the sadness around being single around the holidays and embrace it. I’m excited to announce that this month, I’m launching a blog series on what I’ve termed “Dateless December!” Every Sunday in December will be devoted to a post about being single. Be sure to tune in every Sunday at 6 p.m. EST to read more about my forever alone journey.

TLDR: I’m single, it’s fine. I’ll be talking about it all December!

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The Twenty Something Guide to Giving Tuesday

Alternatively titled, 10 organizations you can give back to on Giving Tuesday

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I know, I know. Another long post? I promise it’s worth it to check out all the organizations listed! I’ve included the type of cause each organization supports in brackets to help make it easier to search for a specific cause to donate to.

Dear Twenty Somethings,

How’s it going? Did you guys get any good Black Friday or Cyber Monday deals? As someone always wanting to save money, I love that Black Friday made its way down to Canada. I still remember when we had to make the trek to the United States for Black Friday. Thankfully I went to a school on the border. For four years, I woke up bright and early to down some caffeine and check out the deals in Detroit. Mind you, that’s when the dollar wasn’t so shitty but I digress. Moving on. Sometimes, we get so caught up in the consumerist mess. As a self-diagnosed recovering shopaholic, I’m guilty of it myself.

Luckily, Giving Tuesday is here to remind us of the power of giving back during the holiday season.

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Twenty Something Talks with Katy | Saturday Spent Well

twenty something talks with katy saturday spent well

This week on Twenty Something Talks we have the lovely Katy from Saturday Spent Well! Katy is a twenty-something freelance writer with a pretty cool 9-5. Her addiction of choice is coffee, and she seeks balance at www.saturdayspentwell.com, where she blogs somewhere at the intersection of tech, wellness, creativity, community, and business. She also tweets and takes too many food pics @katharinrebecca on both Twitter and Instagram.

Welcome to the blog Katy! Today, we’ll start controversial. In your humble opinion, what’s the best dog breed?

I’m super partial to large dogs, so I’m going to say a Mastiff.

Good choice! I love mastiffs. They’re so cute and wrinkly! In other favourites, what is your favourite memory of being in your twenties so far?  

Probably when I broke up with my ex-boyfriend and moved. I moved several times, but the first time was especially nice (even though it was heinous at the time – so many emotions) because it started to feel like I was actually an adult, on my own. And, I made friends who would later become family. So, ultimately a good thing.

I can imagine. It’s crazy what perspective does for you too. Good for you for being independent! What’s your most hated “twenty-something” stereotype?

That we’re all obsessed with technology and want the new, shiny thing. I grew up on a farm and have read far too many dystopian novels to be comfortable with having 80 devices controlling everything in my home. No Alexa for me, thanks.

I have to be honest, we have an Alexa at our house.  Dystopian novels do scare me. What’s your “twenty-something” catchphrase?

Don’t be a dick.

I actually laughed out loud. While we’re on the topic of dicks, what bugs you most in the world?

People who don’t have a sense of responsibility or ambition. You don’t have to have a “dream” – that’s fine, but not having a goal to work towards just boggles my mind. And then those who don’t take responsibility – oh, don’t get me started, I will literally write 3 pages on it. With citations!

Amen! If you had real advice for someone in their twenties what would it be?

Pick at least 3 hobbies: one to make you money, one to keep your brain active, and one to keep your body active. (Bonus points if 1 handles all three.) Not only do hobbies make you a more interesting person, they keep you from being a potato.

Nobody wants to be a potato for sure. That’s amazing advice! What is one truth about being a 20 something?

Nobody has it figured out. You’re going to continue to try to have your shit together your whole life. It’s the best-kept secret of any adult at any age anywhere.

You actually just described my premise of the blog to a T. Can you sum up your twenties so far with one gif?

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That’s one of the cutest gifs of all time! Since we’re on the topic of cute things, in your opinion which Chris is best? (Hemsworth, Evans, Pratt and Pine)

Oh, it has to be my hubby Chris Evans!!

Honestly, I wouldn’t mind being married to him! Before we part, any last words?

If s/he doesn’t respect your time, you don’t have to keep them in your life. Eat the croissant. Take the chance on the job in the new city. The more things you do, the more stories you have.

Stories are important! Thank you for sharing yours, Katy!

As you might have noticed from my post about mental health, I believe that it’s an important topic. Because of this, I really admire Katy’s dedication to bringing the topic of mental health and wellness to light. Be sure to check her out!

Just so you guys know, Twenty Something Talks will now become a bi-weekly series so the next one won’t be out for two more weeks. Be sure to tune in every Sunday for a personal post from yours truly. Until then…

Truthfully yours,

Sam

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The Truth about Inspirational Twenty-Somethings

 Alternatively titled, twenty inspirational (present and future) Twenty-Somethings

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My apologies for the lengthy post but I really wanted to give these inspirational people the recognition and time that they deserve. I bet you my non-existent puppy that it’s worth the read.

Inspired by  Forbes’ latest Thirty Under Thirty, and my good friends at Seneca Media,

I decided to talk about Inspirational Twenty-Somethings that make us want to be better humans. I’ve talked about keeping the blog real and avoiding the trap that twenty-somethings sometimes fall in to – comparing ourselves to the idealized version of our twenties. However, this post is more of a tool for inspiring us to be the best versions of ourselves.

Without further ado (and in no particular order), here is my list of inspirational (current and future) twenty-somethings. I’ve tried to avoid “celebrities” to honour everyday, real people. However, there may be one or two sprinkled in. Be sure to click on their names and links for more inspiration!

 

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