Dear Twenty Somethings,
Hi, hello, is anyone still reading this?
Holy crap has it been awhile since I last posted – almost two months, in fact! “Sam, where have you been,” the five people who read this may ask. Well, as much as I talk about my wonderous time management skills (which I do have), with two jobs, school (basically a full-time job between class and homework), and internship applications coming out of my… well you get the picture. The truth of the matter is a lot of my creativity and effort go into school and trying to get my future intact while the blog kind of hangs in the balance. The future has been an all-consuming thought lately.
Nothing gets me quite in the mood for an existential crisis about my future like my birthday.
FYI, my birthday is tomorrow and if you forget to wish me a happy birthday, you’re banned from my life… just kidding (or am I?) With that birthday, comes cake, a present or two and overwhelming anxiety. The older I get, the more my birthday becomes a scary reminder about my future and all that I haven’t accomplished. It probably does not help that, as I interview for those coveted internships (or WIL as it’s known in my world), I get asked the “where do you see yourself in five years” question.
If you asked me that question five years ago, I would have said that I saw myself as a fourth-grade teacher with a giant ring on my finger (rose gold or at the very least something vintage), a hot but sweet husband and a beautiful child on the way. Yet here I am with :
- an education degree that I won’t get to use as I try to pursue a career in public relations (aka I’m still a jobless student)
- two rings that are not close to rose gold NOR are close to an engagement or wedding ring
- no romantic prospects interested in dating me (I at least have an imaginary hot husband)
- adorable nephews that may be the closest thing to children I will ever have (still a plus, though)
Needless to say, my future is not how I imagined it.
BUT, rather than have another existential crisis (seriously, how many can a girl have), I had something else in mind. Sure, I’m not where I anticipated I would be at 28 – but who is (if you are, now would not be the time to tell me). I have accomplished so many things that I’m proud of. I worked hard to earn two university degrees and I’m working even harder to graduate from my professional certification so I don’t have to go back to school ever again. I’ve survived break-ups and bad relationships, kidney stones and poor hairstyle choices. Most importantly, even though I haven’t accomplished everything I expected to by now, I’ve learned so many great lessons.
So, on the eve of my birthday, I’ll focus on 28 lessons that I’ve learned in the past 28 years
I know what you’re thinking, dear five readers, I don’t look a day over 24. Lucky for you, this is the year I start lying about my age. Yes, I know, 28 is a long list. However, I’m a sucker for lists (as you may know from reading my confessions post back when I first started ) and symbolism so I’ll keep them short and sweet for you. Without further ado, here are my “28 Things I Managed Learn in the Past 28 Years That You Probably Don’t Care About” – It’s a working title.
28 Things I Learned in the Past 28 Years (That You Probably Don’t Care About)
- Being passionate is essential but so is being realistic – find a profession that you love but that also will have opportunities for employment.
- It’s better to be single than to be in a relationship for the sake of it.
- Long distance relationships are rough but can still work if you put an end date on the distance. If you never plan on living in the same place or aren’t working towards an end goal of being together, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate.
- Always wear your best underwear. You never know when you’re going to get hit by a truck or rip your favourite pants.
- Embrace being single – you can still be a Princess without the Prince, so focus on building your own castle and saving yourself.
- If he’s not making an effort, is taking days to reply to you or is too “busy” for you, he’s just not that into you. And that’s okay!
- Pay off your credit cards as soon as you can. Debt is not pretty.
- Hard work is just that – hard work. A strong work ethic will get you far in life.
- Overplucking your eyebrows is not cute.
- Never date a guy who calls himself an “entrepreneur”.
- Do NOT eat anything with even a tiny bit of mold on it.
- Puppies are the greatest.
- Most people only pretend to have their shit together, especially in their twenties.
- Never speak out of anger.
- Be kind. There’s enough mean and hate in the world as it is.
- Life’s too short not to tell people how you feel about them.
- Nurture your inner child.
- Don’t take your shoes off while drinking at a bar. They will get stolen.
- Life is more than just things – you never see a hearse with a trailer hitch.
- Be authentic.
- There’s a difference between being cocky and knowing your worth.
- You are not what people think of you and you aren’t going to please everyone. Even puppies have haters.
- Take care of your skin.
- Learn one new thing every day. For example, Cherophobia is the fear of fun.
- Accept and take ownership of your regrets. They’re like battle wounds. They make you who you are.
- The five-second rule is probably a lie.
- Surround yourself with people who build you up, rather than try to tear you down.
- I still don’t know where I’ll be in five years.
Do I seem smart, wise and put together now?
Tricked ya! Tomorrow I’ll be another year older, but will I be another year wiser? Of course! Have I already learned everything I need to know to be a successful adult? Probably not. Despite my self-deprecating humour, I’ve come a looong way in the past 28 years and I’m sure I’ll continue to grow because that’s what being a human is. I may not have the ring, the boyfriend/fiance/husband/ that six-year-old mean planned on having by now, or the full-time job that I’ve been chasing, but I have fantastic family and friends. I’m cognizant of my strengths, faults and worth and for now, that is enough.