The Truth about Birthdays

Dear Twenty Somethings,

Hi, hello, is anyone still reading this?

Holy crap has it been awhile since I last posted – almost two months, in fact!  “Sam, where have you been,” the five people who read this may ask. Well, as much as I talk about my wonderous time management skills (which I do have), with two jobs, school (basically a full-time job between class and homework), and internship applications coming out of my… well you get the picture. The truth of the matter is a lot of my creativity and effort go into school and trying to get my future intact while the blog kind of hangs in the balance. The future has been an all-consuming thought lately.

Nothing gets me quite in the mood for an existential crisis about my future like my birthday.

FYI, my birthday is tomorrow and if you forget to wish me a happy birthday, you’re banned from my life… just kidding (or am I?) With that birthday, comes cake, a present or two and overwhelming anxiety. The older I get, the more my birthday becomes a scary reminder about my future and all that I haven’t accomplished. It probably does not help that, as I interview for those coveted internships  (or WIL as it’s known in my world), I get asked the “where do you see yourself in five years” question.

If you asked me that question five years ago, I would have said that I saw myself as a fourth-grade teacher with a giant ring on my finger (rose gold or at the very least something vintage), a hot but sweet husband and a beautiful child on the way. Yet here I am with :

  1.  an education degree that I won’t get to use as I try to pursue a career in public relations (aka I’m still a jobless student)
  2. two rings that are not close to rose gold NOR are close to an engagement or wedding ring
  3. no romantic prospects interested in dating me (I at least have an imaginary hot husband)
  4. adorable nephews that may be the closest thing to children I will ever have (still a plus, though)

Needless to say, my future is not how I imagined it.

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The Truth about 2017 | A Year in Review

alternatively titled, wishing that 2018 would come faster

Dear Twenty Somethings,

New Years are actually the strangest thing. We have so many expectations for the upcoming year to be different, or better. Somehow, every new year we forget that each year will bring so many ups and downs. Twelve months is a long time. If 2016 me knew that 2017 me was going to have a rough year, maybe things would be different. Though I experienced many happy and exciting things during 2017, the second half of the year was much rougher. The following is a recap of my year and the lessons that it taught me.

I received some sad news today (if you’re here for the news, it’s closer to the bottom of the post so feel free to scroll through). It threw me for a loop but mostly made me reflect on what 2017 really was. Though I experienced many happy and exciting things during 2017, the second half of the year was much rougher. The following is a recap of my year and the lessons that it taught me.

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The Truth about Letting Go

letting go winter

Alternatively titled, the first step in accepting being forever alone is letting go

Public Service Announcement

In case you weren’t aware, I’m not great at dating. I’m great at relationships (in my humble opinion) but getting into those relationships is not my forte. Most of the time, I’m fine with used to being single, although admittingly I still sometimes wish I wasn’t. However, there’s something about the holidays that makes being single hard. It could be not having a boyfriend to buy presents to or take to holiday parties. Probably, it has more to do with having to handle questions about why I’m still single (#foreveralone).

This year I wanted to ignore the sadness around being single around the holidays and embrace it. I’m excited to announce that this month, I’m launching a blog series on what I’ve termed “Dateless December!” Every Sunday in December will be devoted to a post about being single. Be sure to tune in every Sunday at 6 p.m. EST to read more about my forever alone journey.

TLDR: I’m single, it’s fine. I’ll be talking about it all December!

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The Truth about Inspirational Twenty-Somethings

 Alternatively titled, twenty inspirational (present and future) Twenty-Somethings

Public Service Announcement:

My apologies for the lengthy post but I really wanted to give these inspirational people the recognition and time that they deserve. I bet you my non-existent puppy that it’s worth the read.

Inspired by  Forbes’ latest Thirty Under Thirty, and my good friends at Seneca Media,

I decided to talk about Inspirational Twenty-Somethings that make us want to be better humans. I’ve talked about keeping the blog real and avoiding the trap that twenty-somethings sometimes fall in to – comparing ourselves to the idealized version of our twenties. However, this post is more of a tool for inspiring us to be the best versions of ourselves.

Without further ado (and in no particular order), here is my list of inspirational (current and future) twenty-somethings. I’ve tried to avoid “celebrities” to honour everyday, real people. However, there may be one or two sprinkled in. Be sure to click on their names and links for more inspiration!

 

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The Truth about Mental Health

mental health truth

Alternatively titled, the struggle to keep anxiety under wraps

Public service announcement

Another difficult but important post for me to write. At the end of this post, I’ve listed quite a few resources on mental health and things not to say to someone suffering from mental health issues. Be sure to read them.

Dear Twenty Somethings,

I’ve got a secret superpower – the ability to make it look like I’m put together on the outside when I’m a hot mess inside. Unless you’re a very close friend or family member you probably don’t see that side too often. Luckily, you’re about to get an inner look inside my mind – my apologies in advance. Sometimes, I wonder what the inside of my brain looks like. I blame I can imagine it looks something like this:

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